For some it may be an agonizing thing, but divorce doesn't seem to have the same effect on all. A new study has suggested that divorced single men pay more attention to their bodies to try to win a new mate. Shay Laren Women who divorce are likely to become less fit, as are men who remarry after a divorce, researchers say, but it's a different story for divorced men. Married men are more likely to let themselves go as they no longer need to compete for a partner. The latest study of 9,000 men and women was by scientists at the Karolinska Institute in Stockholm over eight years. "There was a significant increase in fitness in men who divorced but a tendency towards a decrease in women who divorced," the Daily Express quoted researchers as saying. "Single men have the pressure of keeping fit to increase their attractiveness and find a partner." Follow us on Twitter for more stories

Shannon Elizabeth Women look at feminism as a way of being equal to men – be it in politics or at work, but two authors are of the opinion that feminism has all but destroyed modern love lives. The new dating and relationship guide is called "The Man Whisperer: A Gentle, Results Orientated Approach to Communication." "While modern women have been conditioned to 'act like men' in the office in order to climb the corporate ranks and to get ahead, unfortunately women have taken this same masculine attitude with them into their love life," Fox News quoted author Donna Sozio as telling Pop Tarts. "When it comes to love, romance, attraction and chemistry – men don't fall in love with a woman because she is an equal. Men fall in love with women who are their compliment: feminine, sexually available, loving and appreciative," she added. Co-author Samantha Brett offers her views on why men often do the dirty on their successful, gorgeous wives with ...

Lindsay Wagner Bored of the same routine that you and your partner follow in the bedroom? Here are some spicy ideas that you can indulge in to keep your sex life rocking. Role Play: If it turns him/her on, on the screen, imagine how much more effective it will be in real life. Think up which is your partner's favourite movie love scene and surprise them by recreating it in your bedroom. You don't necessarily have to get each and every detail right, instead work on your own look. Hands-Free: It's quite amazing how a simple touch can indeed arouse your partner. But instead of using your hands, like you always do, try to arouse him/her by using some other body part. Tell your partner it's a hands-free night and be as innovative as you can, you'll be surprised at how much he/she will love it. Talk the deed : There's a reason why phone sex is so popular, words can indeed be an instant turn on. Ask your partner what s/he's wearing and describe, as sexily as you ca...

Vanessa Azevedo "Do I have a perfect sex partner? If not, how can I get one?' Indeed a million dollar question that hovers in the minds of most couples! Though it might be hard to find an absolute sexually compatible partner, but most couples don't even know the traits that they or their better half should posses to be a perfect sex partner. Having an outstanding sex partner takes a huge burden off an individual's mind. It allows them concentrate more on the act, instead of thinking too much about whether they're making love to the right person or not. When it comes to a perfect sex partner, attributes like height, weight, age, behaviour, choices etc take a backseat. What matters is that he/she suits you and shares an amazing chemistry in the bedroom. Dr. Kirti Mishra, a clinical physiologist and a relationship expert elucidates, "The idea of a perfect sex partner varies for different individuals, but some common traits like sexually active, experimental in be...

Larissa Riquelme They say the ultimate test of a relationship is when two people take a vacation and are still together when they return. But what if the vacation isn't going so well? Here are five signs that you should look out for to warn you that your partner is about to break up with you: 1. They make a "travel friend" of the opposite sex: It's the obvious sign. When you travel as a couple, the adventures you have are meant to be experienced together, a forging of intimate memories between two people. A third wheel is a no-no at the best of times, but to invite someone along "because they're on their own" or "we're going there anyway" is asking for trouble. 2. They want to do new things on their own: It's really highlighting the fact that doing things they previously expressed no interest in is now preferable to doing things with you. If your partner wants to go off on their own to visit a flea market, then things are salvageable. B...

Jayde Nicole It's not just girls, boys too are hitting puberty a year earlier, a new study has revealed. The research in Bulgaria showed that boys are on a faster track to puberty reaching the milestone an average year earlier than their fathers' generation. Researchers found that boys today start to develop at 12 years old, while those in the 1970s began changing when they were aged 13. The findings suggest that trends towards earlier puberty aren't limited to girls, who have already been shown to be developing sexually at increasingly younger ages. Researchers from Cedars Sinai Medical Center in Los Angeles compared 6,200 healthy boys with a similar 1970s study. In the study they measured height, weight, testicular volume, penis length and circumference. "Studies done several decades ago in the same population reported that a leap forward in sexual development occurs at ages 13 through 16," the Daily Mail quoted study leader Dr Fnu Deepinder, as saying. "Ho...

Suzy McCoppin An author has come up with a list of 10 top dating tips to guide men on what they should never say to women. David DeAngelo, author of "Double Your Dating", says there is nothing worse than making mistakes that will later be regretted and one way to avoid them is to remember the following, Bullz-Eye.com reported. First of all , a man should never ask a woman if he can kiss her, as she will only say, a man should never "ask" for a kiss. Asking her for a kiss will only make a man look like a boy, which is what a woman is not interested in, and even if she says "yes", it could mean she is just being polite, while on the inside her attraction meter will read a firm, "No". Secondly , a man should never ask a woman if he can take her out on a date sometime, as she would like to be with a man who is a leader and in control, not someone who asks her permission to hit on her. A man should confidently ask a woman out, by simply saying, "...

Do you know everything about sex? Think again for the more someone claims to know, the less they generally do know. Alicia Stanton, a board-certified OB/GYN and the author of ''Hormone Harmony,'' who specializes in treating men and women suffering hormone imbalances, has listed top nine sex-related myths and what the real scoop is about sex, desire, and making it all work, reports the Fox News. Myth: Interest in sex decreases with menopause. Reality: Many women maintain hormonal balance and interest in sex through menopause. And, pregnancy and menstruation are no longer a concern, spontaneity can reign. Also, they are typically more confident and knowledgeable about what they want, so sex has the potential to be better than ever. Myth: The only hormone important for libido is testosterone. Reality: Although testosterone is very important for libido and sexual function in men and women, other hormones play a part as well. Estrogen is actually very important for desire in...

Claudio Colucci Wedding times also brings with it a few physiological contradictions or changes in new brides, most of which are related to emotions and mood swings. Hormonal imbalances, hypertension or depression, dietary disorders related to haphazard diet patterns are just some of the reasons that makes aromatherapy extremely important in this phase. Aromatherapy helps soothe skin inflammations especially in extra-oily skin textures or skin ruptures as seen with extra sensitive skin due to dehydration or over-dryness. Here's how aromatherapy can help overcome stress, depression and other skin-related disorders. Overstress and hypertension : One drop of lavender oil or basil oil can soothe nerves. It may be used during bathing or in diffuser, steam chamber etc. Once a week body massage with sandalwood oil-based aroma body massage oil is beneficial to relax the nerve nodes and tone up the tissues. A good Eu-DeûCologne with a drop each of sandalwood oil and lemongrass oil can help...

Do you prefer black underwear to red? Or pink to white? A psychologist has revealed that preference for a certain colour also reveals the kind of lover you are. Red means you're not shy but if you choose pink, you would rather let the other person take the lead and white is for willing learners, according to expert Donna Dawson. The poll found 72 per cent of women now opt for nude or flesh toned lingerie when shopping, shunning the classic whites and blacks – this fact was supported by Debenhams who report nude sales up 38 per cent increase year-on-year. "Colours at the warm end of the spectrum (red, orange, yellow), create feelings of excitement and vitality, and can actually raise our blood pressure, heartbeat and breathing rate," The Daily Mail quoted Dawson as saying. "A red bra denotes a personality that is passionate, energetic, dramatic and driven. A pink bra denotes a personality that is romantic and gentle and in need of affection. She is feminine, sensuou...

Do men like being mothered by their girlfriends? We ask around. Adriana Lima Are you one of those guys who are caught off guard by the devoted and persistent mommying from your girlfriend? Love it or loathe it, you cannot ignore it. Among the many intricacies in a relationship, the putative, protective and tender nature of women plays an important role in making or breaking a relationship. But in some cases, it crosses the fine boundaries of protectiveness into the precarious territory of possessiveness where concern or affection transforms into irksome nagging or control, barring that, who would not like tender care, love, affection and warmth? Actor Mazhar Syed who is dating actress Moulli Ganguly, has no qualms being mommied by his girlfriend. In fact, he thinks it only strengthens their relationship. "All women have an innate quality of being caring and protective and guys do like to be pampered and taken care of. It is a sign of concern and love. My girlfriend is always there...

Match, set, go... easier said than done. Here we list tips on ways to understand your partner better Elisandra Tomacheski They say marriages are made in heaven. But then, there are also those made here on earth. Though an arranged marriage may feel like a pre-historic concept, such matches are still prevalent in society. Whether you marry someone you've fallen in love with, or someone your parents have chosen, as a couple you are bound to go through some ups and downs. It's just that if it's an arranged marriage, it may take you a tad longer to understand the thought process of your partner. If you are about to enter into an arranged marriage, here are some pointers you need to keep in mind: Pre-marital jitters Pre-marital jitters are very common among couples who opt for an arranged marriage. And if you're experiencing them, ask yourself what is causing the anxiety. Among the most prominent reasons is the fear of sharing space and adjusting to a relatively unknown part...

Freedom from sex is not repression of sex; it is the understanding of sex, says Osho in his book I Say Unto You, Vol 2. We get you some excerpts... Elisandra Tomacheski Freedom from sex is not repression of sex; it is the understanding of sex. By understanding, one goes beyond it. But that does not mean that you will be angry, against it and antagonistic. You will be blissful. You will bless everybody with the hope that someday, they will also go beyond it. Religion has to be rooted in the earth. It also has to rise towards the sun. It is like a lotus flower -- rooted in mud and rising towards the sun. The lotus has to be freed from the mud, but the mud has not to be condemned at all, because the mud is nourishment. Your sex energy is nourishment for your samadhi. It is out of the mud of sex that the lotus of samadhi is going to bloom. Never repress it! Never be against it; rather, go deep into it with great clarity, with great love. Go like an explorer. Search all the nooks and corner...

Ask most women, and they'll agree that men don't have much of a choice while decking up. Maggi Caruthers But this thought is pretty much archival. Today, men have so much to opt from in order to add that panache to their ensemble. A major one being, styles in facial hair, be it the beard, moustache or sideburns. Gone are the days when even the five o'clock shadow was considered a taboo. One knows well that those funky beards make women go hoo-ha. It's been a rage right from the early times, when having a beard or a moustache symbolised masculinity. With your facial hair trimmed and styled in the right manner, you can not only bring about that snappy look but also turn people's gaze off your facial weak points. Here are some all-time sexy styles you can sport. Goatee Lucifer is usually painted donning a goatee, but trust us, it just has nothing to do with the villainous look. It's the best option for the square or round faced man. An urbane yet stylised look to f...

You haven't tasted khaman till you've been to Surat ... Kareena Kapoor finds them "dangerous and explosive", Kunal Vijaykar couldn't resist them on a recent trip to Surat on The Foodie and dieters are thrilled when nutritionists prescribe these tasty snacks. We're talking about khaman dhoklas, the spongy delights that are a mainstay of Gujarati cooking. Maggi Caruthers Khaman is a farsan, a course that culinary connoisseur Behram 'Busybee' Contractor described as "tidbits that you have before, during and after a Gujarati meal". It's available across the country at farsan shops in a semi-sweet version known as dhokla, which is a far cry from authentic ones available in Gujarat, its place of origin. Khaman, was invented by the Kathiawadis of Saurashtra as a smooth version that is known as nylon khaman. It's made from Bengal gram flour using a method similar to the preparation of its cousin the idla. While the former is prepared from ric...

If you are a regular cyclist, this may be important for you a new study has found that cycling for at least five hours a week can affect a man's fertility. Researchers at Boston University surveyed 2,200 men attending fertility clinics and found that men who cycle at least five hours a week have fewer and less active sperm than men who do not exercise at all. The data were adjusted for body weight, blood pressure, choice of underwear and other variables, and found that men who exercised regularly were no more likely to have problems with the quality or quantity of their sperm than men who never exercised. But when they looked at specific types of exercise, men who said they spent at least five hours a week cycling were twice as likely to have both a low sperm count and relatively poor sperm mobility. This may be due to trauma or temperature rises in the scrotum, said study leader Lauren Wise. "More studies are needed to replicate our findings before they can be considered caus...

Belly Dance By Mihaela Coman As women become more financially independent, they seek older, more attractive male partners, according to a new study. Previous work has found that women place greater emphasis on whether a man can provide for them when they are choosing a new partner. The latest study, conducted by University of Abertay Dundee researchers, has revealed that as women earn more money their tastes actually change. Greater financial independence gives women greater confidence in choosing their partner, and instinctive preferences for material stability and security become less important, the study found. "We'd assumed that as women earn more, their partner preferences would actually become more like those of men, with a tendency towards preferring younger, more attractive partners rather than those who can provide and care for children," the Scotsman quoted lead researcher Fhionna Moore, of the University of Abertay Dundee, as saying. "However, the preferre...

Now we all know that men do have a feminine side to them but that does not make them pansy. In fact, it'll be interesting to know that women take men more seriously when they do not go out of their way to draw attention. So the metro-sexual guys with a cool attitude are leading the male brigade as a friend, boyfriend, husband, brother, father or boss, who do not believe in being forceful unnecessarily. Even some of the Bollywood and Hollywood flicks about the youth like Wake Up Sid, Jaane Tu Ya Jaane Na, Twilight or even the Harry Potter series for that matter, do not portray the hero as the over-the-top smarty. Keeping things gentle To stretch the imagination further, even superheros like Spiderman and Superman who flew across the sky, were down-to-earth guys in their reel real lives! Closer home, the evergreen angry young man of Bollywood, Amitabh Bachchan has been a man of few words in real life. So being well behaved, soft spoken, flashing a smile, showing emotions whenever req...

Are you always complaining that your sex life is running out of steam? Well, what's stopping you from getting adventurous and innovative? Charge up your sex life using this list of the 10 craziest places to fool around...or you could get inspired and think of a few of your own! 1. On the couch: After the bed, the couch in the living room is screaming for attention. And the best part...it's comfy too. The cushions work as a support system to get those curves and arches to enjoy the perfect moves, while the lack of space will keep up the intimacy levels. Want some more action? Put on a wild flick on video and you have a perfect mood maker! Word of caution: Watch out your moves, going out of control is injurious...for the couch of course! 2. In the bathtub: Things can get real hot even in a cool bath tub. For the ultimate romantic experience, arrange for a bubble bath with aromatic rose petals and passion perfume. Add some mood lighting, splash a few drops of 'ylang ylang'...

Sex may end between the sheets, but that's certainly not where it begins. TOI tells you what to do (outside the bed) for a spunkier sex life . Alessandria Ambrosio Scented candles and flavoured condoms -the paraphernalia is in place, and boy, you were never more ready. It begins with foreplay and before you know, it's over - as unfulfilling as you dreaded. Setting up the supplies is only the icing. What's needed primarily is the passion for each other, which sadly enough isn't available on e-commerce sites. Here's what you can do to increase the satisfaction quotient Go shop Relax. You needn't necessarily buy. Head to a nearest mall and let the brands do the needful. Help your partner try out outfits that makes him/her look attractive. After all, feeling attracted and attractive is the basis for passionate intimacy. Do the karaoke Sing to your partner. Yes, it's embarrassing to some, way too mushy for others and old-fashioned for most, but it works. So, head...

For men who risk their careers for a fling, sex is just another power stimulant, says Nona Walia Alessandria Ambrosio We'll never know what David Davidar, KPS Gill, Phaneesh Murthy, Tiger Woods, Bill Clinton, Anand Jon were thinking when they made those infamous sexual advances thus risking the collapse of their careers. They're now the fall guys. Why do we have increasing cases of powerful men risking everything for sex? Are power and sex somewhat connected? Yes, say experts! Alpha males are high on testosterone, the hormone that triggers high sex drives, aggressiveness and competitiveness. So, power becomes the ultimate aphrodisiac. This trait can be self-destructive, even as reports come in that David Davidar, the publishing legend, has been accused of sexual harassment not just by Lisa Rundle, but also by Samantha Francis, both former Penguin employees. Davidar's wooing of Rundle, and his flattering emails, where he admits that he "could do very little except think...

Elaine Costa Intelligent memory foam designed by NASA to make safer aircraft cushions is now being used in bras Down Under. Ana Beatriz Barros The 'smart' foam, which was developed in the 60s to make aircraft seating safer and more comfortable, has the unique quality of retaining or remembering its shape after pressure is applied. Tim Nielsen, of the bra's local distributor, said he's always on the look out for interesting mash-ups of tech and clothing. "I've probably evaluated a couple of hundred products over the last three years, and once you filter all the ones out that are complete nonsense, this is number one," News.com.au quoted him as saying. "I had to do a double take, and think ''how could that be possible?'' But then when I read more about it, I realised more of the practical benefits. "A derivation of the foam is used in the memory foam mattresses. It's also used in the safety lining of racing car helmets, and so I...

An English professor wrote, "Woman without her man is nothing" and asked his students to punctuate it. Ana Beatriz Barros The men wrote, "Woman, without her man, is nothing!" and the women wrote, "Woman! Without her, man is nothing!" These are just tiny dots, commas and exclamation marks but it depicts the importance of how we can view the same situation in different ways and get two polar results. A lot of the problems within relationships do not stem from situations but our perspectives and handling of them. It seems that many a crisis and issues are handled with aggression by men and tears by women. It's so easy to moan, shout and nag. But it might be more productive to be proactive and positive. You can grudge a workaholic husband and his zeal or reward him with candlelight romantic meals for affording you your lifestyle. You can lament about the death of passion with the years gone by or make it your mission to restore it with whatever it takes. Y...

Feeling shy to make that first move in the bedroom? Well, here are six sex tips to get you all raring to go and sweep your man off his feet. Ana Beatriz Barros 1. Bag Some Bedroom Magic with Before-Play No surprise that women blame a lack of romance for a lack of sex! Time to nurture "before-play" between you if you've had a row, or are stressed after work, let him know you need some cuddles and affection. Don't expect him to be a mind reader - men aren't good at that. Ask him for a compliment, too. Men respond to straight talking so tell him that feeling appreciated and loved-up gets you in the mood for proper foreplay, reports The Sun. Having before-play creates the right mood to get turned on. So include things like always having mood music ready to play, and candles to light your supper - even if it's a takeaway! 2. Get Steamy ! Time to turn up the heat. Why not suggest having a candlelit bath or sexy shower together. Subtle candlelight flatters your figur...

Facebook Hotties Have people forgotten to laugh? In the good old days, they used to laugh 18 minutes a day, but today not more than six minutes. Experts say children can laugh up to 300-400 times in a day, but as adults this frequency drops to 15 times a day. But it's medically proved that laughter benefits your health. Says Dr S K Gupta, senior consultant, cardiology, Indraprastha Apollo Hospitals, "Laughing exercises the heart as well as the lungs. When one laughs, the heart rate goes up and the brain is relaxed." Do we need to laugh more today? "In a fastpaced world, stress-related diseases are on the rise. More than 70 per cent of illnesses are related to stress. To escape stress, people turn to alcohol, smoking and drugs. If only they realised the wonder medicine of laughter!" exclaims Dr Kataria. According to research, open-mouthed laughter is most appealing. "Laughter sounds good only when it's open-mouthed. Conversely, a closed mouth laugh such...