Men getting 'real-cool'

Now we all know that men do have a feminine side to them but that does not make them pansy. In fact, it'll be interesting to know that women take men more seriously when they do not go out of their way to draw attention.

So the metro-sexual guys with a cool attitude are leading the male brigade as a friend, boyfriend, husband, brother, father or boss, who do not believe in being forceful unnecessarily. Even some of the Bollywood and Hollywood flicks about the youth like Wake Up Sid, Jaane Tu Ya Jaane Na, Twilight or even the Harry Potter series for that matter, do not portray the hero as the over-the-top smarty.

Keeping things gentle
To stretch the imagination further, even superheros like Spiderman and Superman who flew across the sky, were down-to-earth guys in their reel real lives! Closer home, the evergreen angry young man of Bollywood, Amitabh Bachchan has been a man of few words in real life. So being well behaved, soft spoken, flashing a smile, showing emotions whenever required and being subtle instead of assertive, are attributes that the modern gentlemen are no longer shying away from.

Singer Shaan is always spotted with a big grin across his face. He has been a happy-go-lucky person all his life and has been branded as the 'nice guy' usually. He says, "Women do not want to get into a fling with a nice guy as they feel they are boring and sentimental. So I ended up marrying Radhika at the age of 28 itself. But I don't think I have missed out on anything as I prefer to be a nice guy than a heart-breaker."

Recently, a high-drama reality show on the television Emotional Atyachaar created a stir. Young people in relationships were putting their partners on loyalty tests. Most of the guys who were found out to be cheaters, had personalities that came across as rowdy and brash. Model Angad Bedi had played host for this show. From his experience and on a personal note he shares, "Gone are the days of being the male-chauvinist pig, today it is about equality among the two sexes. Since women are now more strong and independent, instead of playing the role of the archetypal 'provider', guys are trying to be a good listener instead. This is a happy change for sure."

Looking effortless too
The new breed of well-groomed men are stepping away from the number game of packs on the abs by sporting an effortless, cool and casual look instead. It is this attitude that is getting women hooked as they can relate to these 'real men' better. So dressing casually in denims and T-shirts, going for a razor-cut hair or even a bald pate, sporting an unshaved beard and putting on a pair of specks are no longer being considered 'uncool'. In fact it is this care-free attitude that is coming across as more de-stressing since the guys do not have to try too hard to look 'Mr Perfect'. So the low maintenance, boy-next-door seems happy in his skin and actually clicks with women quite effortlessly.

MTV VJ and actor Rannvijay is a style icon of sorts with his grungy, funky look. He believes, "I feel men these days are more relaxed and comfortable in their out-of-bed look but they need the right attitude to carry it off to keep things stylish instead of clumsy. And as far as impressing women is concerned, it is rather the behaviour that needs to be more prim and proper than the clothes you wear."

Thankfully, one can see a welcome change of more and more guys are gaining confidence to come out of their chivalrous image and be themselves.

Melting the heart as well
It is true that women drool over the hunk who grabs all attention but it is the nice guy who eventually wins more hearts. Shah Rukh Khan got more applause for his character of Surinder in Rab Ne Banadi Jodi than his alter ego - the show-off guy Raj.

Turning to the West, Angelina Jolie shared with a popular magazine recently that what makes Brad Pitt sexy is the way he fathers her children. So even if a casanova may hit it off very well initially, the new age women are smart enough to settle for a more composed guy eventually.

Model Candice Pinto concludes, "It's true that women get drawn to the cool and chilled- out guys as they are easy to handle. Though the level of expectations of modern women from their guys may shoot sky-high, once in love they do give in to the fact that 'Mr Right' may not be 'Mr Perfect'.