Dating using Facebook provides no insurance that a 'friend' is not a 'nut' - HULIQ.com

EUGENE, Ore. -- A warning to college students here at the University of Oregon and across the county is featured on a popular college information web site about being on guard -- when dating using Facebook and other social networking -- due to no real insurance that the people who become your friends are not nuts.

Gone are the days of two people casually asking each other about their hobbies, favorite foods, religion, political views and their past relationships on first dates. Now you can go on Facebook and look through pictures of people and their exes, assuming their exes have not untagged and deleted them mid-breakup. Before you know it, you will see pictures of the guy you thought you liked wearing white sunglasses in between two girls clutching a Coors on spring break in Cancun. Next time the guy or girl you are talking to decides to friend request you, consider these pointers before accepting them and exposing yourself electronically, reported uwire.com Sept. 19 in a nationwide FYI to college students.

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No one cares that all guys/girls are the same. We tend to gravitate toward happy people. Updating your status about your flaky friends or love interest that took you out to dinner and hasnt been heard from since makes you seem like a negative Nester, reports uwire.com.

At the same time, Oregon Duck fans note that they no longer use Facebook to brag about the Ducks because too many crazies are out there and they feed on people who are happy. They like to bring you down, and gets some perverse pleasure from using online dating services to burst the bubble of anyone looking for love, explains Jena, a college student who is sharing this news on uwire.com for both college and high school students.

Facebook friends are not really friends

Who doesnt want friends?

Everyone know there was even a successful TV show called Friends that fans still watch over and over because they enjoy watching people be friends.

However, the new warnings on college campus to shun online dating or be very, very careful is not without support from numerous government agencies, including the Office of the Vice President, due to violence against women, with online dating as one access point for the nuts who are out there.

It should be a privilege for that special person to learn more about who you are. Part of the excitement and purpose of a first, second and third date is for you and your date to get to know each others quirks, hobbies and what makes them tick. Its only human nature to value something more if not everyone can have it. Dont share everything about yourself on your Facebook page it depreciates your value to others, explains the uwire.com report thats sent to all colleges in the U.S.

Do not like Facebook pages such as Blondes do it better and Mom, mom, mommy, ma, mom, mom, ma, ma, mommy, mommy WHAT!! hi! These Facebook likes are pointless and clog up your page. You can still like Family Guy, you just dont have to prove your devotion by liking a Stewie quote. You may be the most intellectual person in Reno who likes to immerse yourself in the readings of F. Scott Fitzgerald and Ernest Hemingway," explained one college student on uwire.com via making a point that one "should not be so open about one's views online because you simply don't know who you're talking to."

When Facebook 'friends' actually met in person, they hated it

For instance, five University of Oregon college students and teachers made contact with new 'friends' using Facebook, and then made a date to meet at the famed "Oregon Country Fair" this past July. When they all met, each noted that they could "never be real friends" with this person. They didn't even hang out at the Fair after sharing months of being 'friends' on Facebook.

"It's just crazy becuase I learned that I 'projected' friendship on these Facebook people and they were not friends at all," explained Sarah from Eugene.

However, "if the first thing someone sees on your page is a Family Guy quote, they may not take you seriously, added the uwire.com report about online dating dangers and friendship "mental health" dangers. The advice from one college student stated that:

-- Im glad you had a fun night, but seeing you drunk with a shot glass in your hand making out with your lust interest of the night is not going to make going on a date with you seem more appetizing to anyone.

-- Keep these pictures off your page and let them live on your computer instead. Although I shamefully owned a pair of white Juicy Couture sunglasses in the 10th grade, I have thankfully matured and moved on to aviators. White sunglasses, especially for men, make you seem like a tool. So please, if you are going to take the risk of wearing them, dont leave evidence of it on Facebook.

-- If after reading this you decide you are too attached to your Facebook page as is, do what I do. Do not accept your love interests friend request until after the fifth date. By then if they still like you, make it official and become Facebook friends. While Facebook can be an ideal icebreaker, remember that it also has the potential to be a deal breaker.

Overall, college counselors tell young people that online dating is a fools game and can seriously impact ones mental health and wellbeing.