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Dear Dating Girl: I'm a 35-year-old male who recently met a woman online. We exchanged a few emails, eventually talked on the phone and I felt like we clicked. We decided to meet. I was hoping to meet her in a public place, perhaps have a "hello" drink, and then move on. If we found ourselves attracted to each other, fine. If not, no harm done. She arrived before I did, with a friend. She was polite, we shook hands, smiled, etc. She was quite attractive and very classy. Then she made the excuse that she and her friend had some errands to run and that she had no time right then to go in and have a drink. I smiled, accepted the situation, and left. I got the feeling she was very disappointed in my appearance. I'm in good shape, although slightly graying at the temples. I've been referred to as "nice looking" and "a good catch." Should I email her and let her know what I'm thinking? I thought about calling her all weekend, but I couldn't bring myself to dial the number. Should I just forget it and move on?

Mystery Meeting

Dear Mystery: The ego is such a delicate thing isn't it? You say yourself that you went into the meeting feeling that "if you were attracted to each other, fine, if not, move on." And no doubt had you not been physically attracted to her, you would have easily moved on. With the shoe on the other foot, it's a little harder to walk away. I'm sure you're a perfectly attractive man, maybe even a "catch," but physical attraction is a very personal thing. Who knows why you didn't work for her? Unfortunately, this is one of the risks of online dating. You can "click" online, but everything changes when you meet and physical chemistry butts in.

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